Allison & Phillip | March 17, 2018

Randi Fracassi

“Now at last they were beginning Chapter One of the Great Story which no one on earth has read: which goes on for ever: in which every chapter is better than the one before.” -- C. S. Lewis

Needless to say, Allison's favorite quote is a perfect reflection of her and Philip's wedding. Allison was a seasoned bartender at a local restaurant here in Baton Rouge when Philip was hired in June 2013, and the connection was immediate and electric. The rest, as they say, is history. 

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Our Amazing Team


Ceremony and Reception Venue: Shaw Center for the Arts

Catering: Mansurs On The Boulevard

Coordination: Poppy Lane Events

Baked Goods: Gambino's Bakery

Bridal Apparel: Maggie Sottero Designs

Band: Nola Dukes Band

Floral: Billy Heroman's Flowers

Photography and Cinema: SB James Photography

Rentals and Design: August Events

Signage: Ettie Kim

You are Not the Shiz

Randi Fracassi

“You are not the shiz, we are all the shiz.”

Here I was, in a room full of amazing entrepreneurs and creatives attending a conference, people nodding and saying “YASSSS” in agreement to words of an idol of the wedding industry, and while we were all full of life and vigor with bright eyes and excitement, I couldn’t help but pause for a moment. Not because I was so incredibly blown away by what the speaker was saying or the message of being humble and kind she was giving, because it was clear in that moment that nearly none of these fellow attendees got it. This was further cemented when mere moments later, as we transitioned into the styled shoot portion of the day, and the same folks were downright nasty to each other to “get their shot”.

It left quite the impression on me, that’s for sure.

It’s hard, I get it. I know we’re all competing, fighting for the same client in the same area. We’re pricing each other out, complaining about those who both charge way too low and take away all of the customers and in the same breath criticizing those who charge more for “the same work”. We are constantly saying “Yes! Community! Helping people out!” while at the same time snarling at each other to get the shot.

And I would like to say that I’m above this kind of behavior, but the fact of the matter is, I’m not. I’m just as guilty and I hate that I am. And as someone who also does this, I think I can speak for the majority in that we don’t do this because it’s intentional; if anything, it’s because of a horrible trait called jealousy. And pride. And the desire to succeed and work with our dream clients and do all the things we want to that we think others are doing right in this second.

When it occurred to me what it was that I was doing, it was extremely humbling. I was a pot calling the kettle black, and I wasn’t ok with that; I pride myself on a “do as I say, not as I do” kinda person, and it really upset when I realized otherwise. So, what did I do (and to be honest, what am I still doing) to combat this?

I help my competition. Intentionally.

I offer advice, peeks into how I run my advertising, thoughts and feelings of going with the Knot over Wedding Wire (which, Louisiana folks, absolutely put those marketing dollars into the Knot! More of our couples use it click-for-click), and what my workflows are. I have made genuine, real friends with these folks, going to coffee and having a movie night outside of traditional networking events (that’s right, like how seriously everyone else hangs out with their friends). We’ve referred work to each other, and when in a pinch, called each other for help.

It’s acknowledging that yeah, your clients have the same budgets and styles and are amazing people, but for some reason no matter how you study or research it, they went with someone else. It’s realizing that for you, your business, you have your clients that love YOU and appreciate YOU, and they have theirs. And it’s ok to know that they more than likely inquired with them too. These competitors and other folks do great work and care for their clients as much as you do. That’s perfectly fine.

Above all else though, I humbled myself. Yeah, of course I want the money from a booking (making a living is a big part of why I do what I do). But I, and you too, have to look at the bigger picture. There are more moving parts even outside of the sphere of competition and knowing that everyone has their kind of client, and clients have their kind of vendor. In the weeks and days leading up to an event, there’s a coordinator/planner hunting contact info down and settling timelines for literally everyone while a photographer is planning out how to get the most out of their hours and stressing over how quickly they can process images, a specialty rental company seeing a $500 linen was torn last week and how to repair it as quickly as possible for this week. It’s a firm understanding that you are not the most important person in the grand scheme of it all.

I humbled myself by remembering that I am but a small part in the process. My competition is a small part. The vendor I don’t particularly care for is a piece too, and the one that is my best friends IRL. We all contribute to make a moment in time happen, to create a feeling that couples generally only experience once in their lifetime. Holy cow.

We make that happen. Our competition makes it happen. How incredibly amazing is it that folks found a calling, discovered that is a calling, and you can relate to them in this way?

As this speaker said, we’re all the shiz. We do some pretty awesome stuff. Coming together with a team of vendors, or as a “vendor category” as a whole, to make magic happen and be a part of creating lifetime memories. Reflect on this consciously, beat down that little green monster of envy, and make the effort to be intentional and genuine in creating relationships within the industry. Because y’all, at the end of the day, it truly does foster a better community and a better wedding day for couples.

Kindly,

Randi 

Allison & Christopher | April 21, 2018

Randi Fracassi

When you know, you know. When Allison and Chris met during college, it was instant. A sweet girl from Louisiana, a bright eyed and down-to-earth boy from New York, a combination that lead them to New Orleans to celebrate the start of forever with laughter, dancing, and donuts (that's right here kids...if there's a better duo than Allison and Chris, it's Krispy Kreme and New York City policemen!). 

Captured so beautifully by Kaylie Martin of Kaylie Nicole Photography, and with floral and styling by Diane over at Fat Cat Flowers, their day was absolutely perfect. Cheers to many years, Allison and Chris! #WidmerTiesTheKnox

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OUR AMAZING TEAM

Photography: Kaylie Nicole Photography

Coordination: Poppy Lane Events

Ceremony Location: St. Louis Cathedral

Reception Location: Marche

Prep Location: Chateau LeMoyne

Floral Designer: Fat Cat Flowers

Entertainment: Luv Sexy Band & Kinfolk Brass Band

Beauty Team: Flawless Bride

Cake: Haydel’s Bakery

Donut Tree: Krispy Kreme Bakery

Invitations: Zazzle

Bridal Apparel: Allure Bridal at Ashley Renee Bridal

Why Our Planning and Coordinating Services are Worth Every Penny

Randi Fracassi

Congrats!!! You’re engaged!  Right about now, I bet you're thinking “Ahhhh…now what?” (And I’m sure you’re seeing lots of advertisements right about now saying this too!)

Over here at Poppy Lane, wedding planning is viewed as a season of your relationship with your future spouse where you get to enjoy planning your marriage. It’s personal, fun, and intimate in a sense that the choices you makes are a representation of you and your significant other. Sure there are checklists, appointments, and added stresses, our team strives to make sure that you get to enjoy putting the pieces together; that is, not going crazy! That’s where we come in. And that’s how I can answer my above question on what exactly comes next for you and your fiancé.

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Photos by Vivid Dream Photography, Jen Menard Photography, and Lauren Talbert

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After the glow of saying “Yes!” has set in, it’s time to buckle down and think about the team that it will take to put together one of the biggest days of your life. It’s researching, lots of reading (aka stalking, let’s be real here), and determining the investment you’re making into making sure someone meets not only your style and aesthetics, but is trustworthy and a pleasure to work with. While the word “invest” is a little strong here, it is certainly necessary: the guidance, the troubleshooting, and the nature of what planning work entails is worth every. Single. Penny. Why? Here are three key reasons as to why a team holds the utmost value for any couple beginning their wedding planning journey.

We anticipate needs and troubleshoot problems before they happen. Like many craftsman, it takes a knowledgeable and skilled team to be able to anticipate, adapt, and succeed through problems or issues before it’s noticed. Time and time again, Poppy Lane finds itself innovating and solving, and going above and beyond to keep everything as close as possible to perfect for our couples. Whether we are noticing a detail that isn’t just so, or making sure guests are enjoying themselves in a safe manner, we are the eyes as ears from beginning to end of an event to ensure that all memories are positive memories of your wedding day. 

When it comes to having seeking guidance and insight at any point along the way, we’re there for you. As with most organized events, there’s usually a person in charge. Whether it’s a team captain, leader, or boss, typically someone is delegated to be in charge and for good reason. This person helps keep the rest of the team on track, motivated, and in the loop regarding the decisions being made and the status of the project. They guide everyone along, make sure the moving pieces are coming together smoothly and without fail, and hold all parties accountable. As a wedding planner, there’s an emotional connection between us and our clients, and while we certainly manage and assemble all of our vendors and important persons, we also become a shoulder to lean on and a source of information and comfort. We make sense of a rather strange and involved series of events and processes, and ensure the foundation of each wedding is set up to be a flawless celebration that you get to be present and enjoy throughout.

This is the start of forever for you and your other half; you’re ultimately planning a marriage, and we understand this more than anyone else. In every opinion shared and decision made, we are conscious of the meaning of this day for you. We constantly do a delicate dance between providing personal opinion and support and professional service and time. While we are here to first and foremost professionally serve you every step of the way in planning and coordinating your wedding, we do so with a friendliness and casualness that allows you to feel comforted, cared for, and at ease. We believe wedding planning is a fun and exciting time despite the added pressures and stresses; we are not a “do as I say, not as I do” type of group over here.

If you’re newly engaged or in the process of planning your wedding, we’d love to be of assistance to you. If you’re interested in setting up a complimentary consultation please do so here. We’d love to see if we’re just the team right for you!

Happy planning,

 

Randi

 

Our Favorite Venues of Louisiana for 2018

Randi Fracassi

Y'all know where's here to celebrate and have a good time, but we're also here to show off our favorite venues for 2018 and 2019 weddings and events. Without further ado, let's sho off these neat places! 

James Grace House

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With Antebellum details for days outside of Plaquemine, this home and its grounds are the perfect setting for simple, no fuss weddings with guest lists of any size. A Poppy Lane favorite for sure! You can get more information here

The New Orleans Pharmacy Museum

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If you're seeking an intimate, courtyard, and definite New Orleans feel, look no further than the Pharmacy Museum. With minimal lagniappe needed to fit your tastes and style, this venue can hold it's own -- just bring the party! For more info about renting it for your wedding, click here

The Lake at Oak Hill

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In Ethel, Louisiana, this quaint building overlooks a lake and gives brides and grooms the ability to build their dream wedding as they desire. Add some candles, two people in love, and a group of folks wanting to celebrate, and I would say the space is darn near perfect. You can find out more information about their rates and availability here

Marigny Opera House

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Tall ceilings, curved arches, and elegant columns make the perfect backdrop for a New Orleans wedding. the Marigny Opera House is located but several blocks away from the Quarter for the most epic of after parties. You can find more info here

The Dixie Gin

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Located just outside of Shreveport in Dixie, Louisiana, the Dixie Gin is a wonderful mix of warehouse and barn, providing a perfect backdrop to either have a fully glam event or a more relaxed and boho vibe. We love all the possibilities! You can check it out here.

Race + Religious

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A combination of quaint, detail filled building on the corner of Race and Religious Streets in New Orleans, this venue personifies the architecture and ambiance of everything New Orleans. Definitely a favorite for sure! You can find out more here

Capitol Park Museum

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Sleek, modern, and a blank slate for creating ambiance in Downtown Baton Rouge, the Capitol Park Museum has spectacular views of the Louisiana State Capitol and will be sure to keep your guests talking about your wedding for years to come! You can find out more here.

The White Magnolia

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Brick, exposed beams, and lots of natural light, this South Louisiana barn sits on a working horse farm, and runs like clockwork. Need I say more? Find more details right here.

The LSU Steele Burden Botanical Gardens

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Located in the heart of Baton Rouge, the LSU Botanical Gardens (in specifics, the Orangerie and Rose Garden) are an oasis among the hustle and bustle of the city. With the iron chandeliers and ability to customize the layout however you desire, the venue is a perfect place to create a setting to exchange your vows, and then turn the party up! Check it out here

Sainte Terre

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Located north of Shreveport and Bossier City, Sainte Terre would be the wedding venue equivalent of Joanna Gaines. Shiplap, a mix of rustic and modern details, this venue is surely something out of a dream. For more info, click here!

 

Y'all, we hope you enjoyed our list of venues! Do you have a favorite to add? Where any of these shockers to you? We'd love to know and get your input! We have so many that we love and love to share, but only so many can make the list! 

Happy planning,

Randi

Plan with Me: Streamlining Your Wedding Planning Process

Randi Fracassi

We know that planning a wedding is stressful, and that there are a lot of places to start. It can pretty overwhelming pretty quick, and before you know it, you're a few weeks out and you're wondering if you're missing something. 

Don't worry, we've got you covered. 

We're sharing some tips and tricks today that we use for planning and keeping our clients on track of making sure all the details are taken care of! 

First, prioritize what is important to you and your future spouse. Whether it's an important date, a special venue, or wanting to make sure that your guests have an experience, ensuring that you have your top two or three must haves spelled out from the very beginning is key to staying on top of wedding planning. 

After you make your priority list, talk about budget. Talking money is always difficult, but giving yourself a range to stay within rather than a set amount (for example, staying between $25,000 and $30,000 versus a must have at $27,000) will not only give you wiggle room as needed, but it also gives you the ability to splurge and save in other areas. While you're setting a budget, don't be afraid to ask who is contributing to the wedding fund; again, it can be hard and awkward, but if you're honest and upfront from the beginning about what you both want your day to be like and what you would like the budget to divided up by, it will save you pain, stress, and heartache in the long run.  

Another way you can save yourself from missing anything is getting yourself a planner. I would love to say "That's right, me!", but I'm humble enough to recognize that there's nothing quite like having a reminder set to your phone or having it handwritten in an agenda to make sure everything is complete and done. I love this one from Southern Weddings, and this one from Erin Condren. If you're not feeling like having binders and guides and papers everywhere (which is me, I can't handle having all the important things not in one place), I again recommend Erin Condren Life Planner, Day Designer (which you can find at Target), or a simple pocket planner that you can pick up at any Walmart, Target, or office supply store. 

Want something more complete and in detail (a checklist, perhaps?)? Check out the wedding planning timeline we use for our brides over here at Poppy Lane Events, handcrafted for you to keep on track, streamline the planning process, and ensure you don't forget a thing. 

What is your favorite tool for staying on task? Did you find it easier to have everything digital, or handwritten reminders? Did setting goals throughout the process help you? We'd love to know! 

Happy planning,

Randi 

Plan with Me: How to Plan Your Wedding With Intention

Randi Fracassi

We all want a beautiful wedding. A day where all the details reflect you and your style, that tells a story, that has your guests experiencing the best night of your life with you. What the trick is though is how to have that kind of intentionality while planning, and making sure that this day truly does reflect you.

One of the first things that can help as you begin to plan is not to put a timer on yourself. The time crunch will come later, I promise, but relish in this season and allow yourself to enjoy being engaged and to enjoy the planning process. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither will your wedding. Having the patience to look at options, to build your budget, to create your guest list, to find the perfect pieces to make it all come together, will allow your decisions to be more thought out and ultimately ensure that you get exactly what you’re looking for, and that you’re not compromising on anything relating to your big day.  

Pick a venue that speaks you both of you. This might mean making your way across the state, or video chatting across the country, but your wedding venue sets the foundation of the rest of the aesthetic for your day. Though it can be very easy to get caught up in glamour to the style of a venue, you just also keep in mind the setting and the realistic size of your wedding. That is, having a small, intimate wedding in a hall that can hold 300 will more than likely not be ideal, nor would choosing a space that has many small rooms versus a more open space if you’re looking to create a bright and airy environment. Choosing it with the intention of celebrating you and telling your story is absolutely key in ensuring that your wedding reflects you as a couple.

Besides your venue, do not pick vendors based solely on their prices. I am not saying here that you should completely plan your wedding without thought to cost, but what I am saying is that just because a vendor may be cheaper (or even free) in comparison to another, consider the experience you want to have and whether or not you are getting the most out of your experience for your investment. Like your venue, your vendors help set the tone and are a reflection of you; in regards to vendors that you receive tangible goods from (apparel, photographers, baker, videographers, catering, paper goods), be especially aware that these are what you’ll have to remember from your wedding, and that these goods need to have the most care in their selection.  

While you now may have the perfect setting and team on your side, also take into consideration your wedding party, and the guest list itself. It goes without saying that you want your wedding to be the best of days, and you want to be able to celebrate without worry of offending, hurting, or being otherwise involved in drama. With that, surround yourself with a group of men and women who support you, would hold you accountable, and who genuinely cherish your friendship. Sure you more than likely will have to include friends of your parents, plus ones, or others you may not personally know for the sake of politeness and etiquette, but taking the meticulous care to invite those friends and family that would contribute to your wedding day will complete the atmosphere that you created.

Finally, and most importantly, remember what you have at the end of it all. Once you say goodbye, the venue is cleaned up, and you’re left standing there, you are married. You’ve made a commitment to another person, another soul. Throughout the planning process and the season of engagement in your lives, it should be at the forefront that this is what matters most; that this marriage is what matters and what is being celebrated, and that this party isn’t for show. At this time, take the care to go through premarital or couples counseling in preparation for your marriage, and to make sure that you have those deep down, core value questions (if you haven’t already).

I hope these tips will help you as you plan your wedding with intention, whether it’s to make sure that it’s stylish and trendy or more heartfelt and personal, these suggestions will surely help you as you plan to make the most out of your wedding planning experience!

Happy planning,

Randi

Ring Boxes That Will Make Your Heart Skip a Beat

Randi Fracassi

Proposal season and wedding season have come into full swing y’all! With that, who doesn’t love when a ring is given to you in such a pretty package? Or having your invitation suite styled beautifully? Today I’m sharing a few of my favorite ring boxes (or ring box alternatives!) that are sure to complete your styling kit or take her breath away before she says yes!

The Mrs. Box

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The most popular of ring boxes (aside from the classic blue of Tiffany’s), The Mrs. Box set the standard of quality and craftsmanship with their ring boxes, offered in a plethora of sizes and colors, and has the option to be monogrammed in silver, gold, or rose gold foil. These boxes start at $75, and you can see the full collection here.

With this Ring by Esselle

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Mixing velvet with gold and rose gold metals, this box is a modern alternative to a square ring box. Currently offered in four colors (blush, ivory, black, and emerald), this box makes a perfect accent for a trendy styling suite. You can pick one up here for $65.

Secret Keeper Box

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In a unique, octagon shape, the Secret Keeper Box is handmade from the Ukraine. Offered in a variety of colors and the choice of fitting one or two rings, this box is a sweet twist on traditional velvet boxes. Starting at $70, you can purchase one here.

Terrarium Ring Box by Haloney Rakia

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Love the trend and look of terrariums and geodes? Look no further than this glass and metal welded piece! Available in black, silver, and copper, this handmade box comes from Israel, and can be purchased here starting at about $30.

The Kelo Box

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Mixing both metal and wood in a cylindrical design, this ring box has a sweet mid-century minimal look to it. Available in both Walnut and black aluminum, this Canadian hand-made box can be purchased for $120 and seen here.

Yes Box by Offerman Wood Shop

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This box is made by none other than Nick Offerman (Parks and Rec, anyone?), but other than its famous maker, this box is beautifully made and stays true to a rough yet polish style, making use of the natural appearance of the wood and making it functional. These boxes start at a cool $169, and can be purchased here.

These boxes are beautiful y’all, and I loved sharing them with you! Each of these would be a beautiful keepsake and heirloom, and surely will stand the test of time. Which one is your favorite? Do you have a favorite that wasn’t mentioned here?

Happy planning,

Randi

Dancing in the Dark: A Styled Elopement

Randi Fracassi

Her smile was radiant. It lit up her eyes and brought a warmth to his soul, and he knew that he wanted that smile for the rest of his life. He had become her rock, her partner in all things, and without a shadow of a doubt understood that without him being by her side, her life would be meaningless and not nearly as full as it had been since they met. So hand in hand, excited and scared and nervous, they decided on forever.

And so they laughed. And they loved. And they cried and got angry and forgave. They worked together and didn’t give up on each other. They were partners, a team, the perfect match in every way. And they cared for each other in such a way that words cannot describe it.

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I hope ya’ll garnered some inspiration from this inspirational shoot that we did in collaboration with Hannah Herpin Creative, Madames and Mermaids Artistry, Pure Vintage Rentals, Banter and Charm and The Keeping Room, and Blush Formal and Bridal. It was such a joy to work on, and I know that the various elements of this shoot can be altered to fit your aesthetic and your vision.

Happy planning,

Randi 

Operation I DO: The First Five Things You NEED To Do After Marrying Your Service Member

Randi Fracassi

While sitting in the Social Security Office waiting for your name to be called may be the highlight of your time post-wedding (just kidding, we all know the Honeymoon is!), there are couple other loose ends that need to be tied up once you’re officially married to your service member. Navigating DEERS, receiving orders and managing your PCS move, obtaining POA, are all details that need to be taken of before you change your social media status (but hey, the lines are long and boring, and there’s quite a bit of time to kill…). Today I’m sharing with you the first five things you need to do post-wedding after getting married to a military personnel.

Let’s also preface this by saying that your Social Security information must be changed prior to all of this. While waiting with other folks in the Social Security Office isn’t exactly the highlight of the marriage experience, it is a necessity in regards to getting your name changed, which I would recommend, as it makes not only enrollment and HR paperwork for your spouse easier, but when you receive orders for your PCS (Permanent Change of Station, aka, moving in your spouse, or moving to another base). Your adventure with Social Security can be shorted by their readily available online forms (found here) and bringing in copies of your birth and marriage certificates.  It’s best to knock this all out in one day if possible, especially since your service member may have to take a day of leave in order to make sure everything is squared away.  

After updating this, get enrolled in DEERS and/or MilPDs, and learn all the fancy acronyms that accompany it. Y’all, the military and government in general is a real big fan of acronyms, and will go out of their way to name a program something ridiculous just to make an acronym for it I promise you. Essentially though, DEERS is the military benefits and resource database (officially called Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System), and MilPDs (Military Personnel Data System) supplements DEERS in that it also keeps track of events throughout your spouse’s career (such as promotions ((and changing eligibility as a result)), additional dependents, and separations). Usually you can do all of your DEERS, MilPDs, and ID paperwork in the same office, killing two birds with one stone. Remember; bring your birth certificate(s), Social Security Card, and your marriage certificate. I would recommend bringing copies of each in the event that they need to keep them.

While enrolling in DEERS and MilPDs, your spouse will need to visit their human resource contact within their squadron or battalion in order to have their pay and BAH (Basic Allowance for Housing) changed in respect to their changed dependent status. What’s neat about BAH is that it changes based on location, and grants service members and their families the ability to live outside or in mixed housing.

 After taking care of DEERS and your ID, get added into TRICARE, the healthcare associated with the military. A full outline of the different packages for both enlisted and officers can be found here. Keep in mind that though your active duty service member already has dental, but it is additional for you.

Post all of this paperwork and phone calls and office visits, consult with a lawyer to obtain Power of Attorney. By having POA, you can manage finances, loans, and take care of legal paperwork if your spouse is away for training or deployed.

I would also familiarize yourself with the resources now available to you as a spouse. Besides taking a tour of post or learning about what exactly it is or where your spouse works, but reach out to a Key Spouse or the FRG (Family Readiness Group) about getting involved with your spouse’s unit, and beginning to integrate yourself. You will meet a variety of folks here – both good and bad, comforting and annoying, but the experience itself is what you make of it. And y’all, regardless if you get along with folks or not, at the end of the day, the community that is formed on bases is unlike that of any other; you can’t put it to words how it feels to look around a room, not saying a word, and the woman across knows exactly what you’re going through because she’s been there too. The support is invaluable.

Milspouses, what advice would you give to new spouses? Any tips or ticks to make the process easier? What did you find most valuable as you transitioned into an official SO role? In the meantime, I hope these tips assist you in streamlining your tasks as a new spouse!

Kindly,

 

Randi