We all want a beautiful wedding. A day where all the details reflect you and your style, that tells a story, that has your guests experiencing the best night of your life with you. What the trick is though is how to have that kind of intentionality while planning, and making sure that this day truly does reflect you.
One of the first things that can help as you begin to plan is not to put a timer on yourself. The time crunch will come later, I promise, but relish in this season and allow yourself to enjoy being engaged and to enjoy the planning process. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither will your wedding. Having the patience to look at options, to build your budget, to create your guest list, to find the perfect pieces to make it all come together, will allow your decisions to be more thought out and ultimately ensure that you get exactly what you’re looking for, and that you’re not compromising on anything relating to your big day.
Pick a venue that speaks you both of you. This might mean making your way across the state, or video chatting across the country, but your wedding venue sets the foundation of the rest of the aesthetic for your day. Though it can be very easy to get caught up in glamour to the style of a venue, you just also keep in mind the setting and the realistic size of your wedding. That is, having a small, intimate wedding in a hall that can hold 300 will more than likely not be ideal, nor would choosing a space that has many small rooms versus a more open space if you’re looking to create a bright and airy environment. Choosing it with the intention of celebrating you and telling your story is absolutely key in ensuring that your wedding reflects you as a couple.
Besides your venue, do not pick vendors based solely on their prices. I am not saying here that you should completely plan your wedding without thought to cost, but what I am saying is that just because a vendor may be cheaper (or even free) in comparison to another, consider the experience you want to have and whether or not you are getting the most out of your experience for your investment. Like your venue, your vendors help set the tone and are a reflection of you; in regards to vendors that you receive tangible goods from (apparel, photographers, baker, videographers, catering, paper goods), be especially aware that these are what you’ll have to remember from your wedding, and that these goods need to have the most care in their selection.
While you now may have the perfect setting and team on your side, also take into consideration your wedding party, and the guest list itself. It goes without saying that you want your wedding to be the best of days, and you want to be able to celebrate without worry of offending, hurting, or being otherwise involved in drama. With that, surround yourself with a group of men and women who support you, would hold you accountable, and who genuinely cherish your friendship. Sure you more than likely will have to include friends of your parents, plus ones, or others you may not personally know for the sake of politeness and etiquette, but taking the meticulous care to invite those friends and family that would contribute to your wedding day will complete the atmosphere that you created.
Finally, and most importantly, remember what you have at the end of it all. Once you say goodbye, the venue is cleaned up, and you’re left standing there, you are married. You’ve made a commitment to another person, another soul. Throughout the planning process and the season of engagement in your lives, it should be at the forefront that this is what matters most; that this marriage is what matters and what is being celebrated, and that this party isn’t for show. At this time, take the care to go through premarital or couples counseling in preparation for your marriage, and to make sure that you have those deep down, core value questions (if you haven’t already).
I hope these tips will help you as you plan your wedding with intention, whether it’s to make sure that it’s stylish and trendy or more heartfelt and personal, these suggestions will surely help you as you plan to make the most out of your wedding planning experience!